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Question : Ladies: What do you think about this encounter?
This was last night.

I haven’t dated in three years. I live in a college town. It gets worse. Three months ago I had shoulder surgery. This made me even more of a hermit. The medical bills forced me to stay here on spring break.

Its St. Paddy’s Day, and I finally feel recovered enough from the constant pain, so I go to a local bar. What do ya know, my buddy Chris is talking on the two hottest girls when I get there. Even better, he introduces me to the one he is not interested in (of course). She is equally as hot as the other one and they are both very attractive.

She sits down and I initiate conversation. Keep in mind this is the first time I have been out for over three months. I cant even remember what I said. I wasn’t drunk. I only drank two and a half beers in two hours. The maybe ten minute conversation lead into a discussion about majors, of course, and she seemed generally interested in talking to me. She did do the phone check a few times. I went off about how I like art and the stuff I do. I asked her about what she was into. She told me she wanted to do sitcoms. She was a solid nine so it was kinda believable.

I did a few things that were maybe strange. I mentioned that I just had a shoulder surgery. She seemed repulsed. I also pulled out my portable breathalyzer. She seemed unimpressed. It wasn’t awkward really. Just uninspired.

Eventually she said she had to go to the bathroom and before she went, she spent a long time whispering to her friend. She came back sat down with all her body language facing away from me. Then a few minute later they both went outside. She never came back.

What I cant figure out is why. When I was talking to her, she told me that she was the DD. Then right before I left, her friend told her that alcohol doesn’t sit well with her, and that she had to go home and rest. On St. Paddy’s Day? I almost felt insulted. Who is supposed to believe this? (BTW I was cordial to her friend who said that she hope to see me around)

I am actually decently attractive for a guy. Go to the gym 5 times a week. I have this sinking feeling in my stomach. I used to have no problem with girls. Its just been so long and now that I’m 29 and rusty I have seemed to hit a wall. Is it because they can see that I am desperate? I also have had a lot of pain and suffering in the last couple of years like a bad back injury and a recent shoulder surgery. Can girls see that easily? How can I hide it? Did she leave because she didn’t like me? How can I get back in the driver’s seat? Also, what was she whispering and why do girls do that?
portable breathalyzer

Best answer:

Answer by Rachel
Again. Beauty isn’t everything. Well if she looked repulsed when you told her about your surgery, then she left, I guess she got disinterested. Sounds a little b*tchy to me. Forget about her. There are alot more girls who are just as attractive and look beyond disabilities. Dont let it damage your pride, it’s probably her loss anyway. Just keep looking around, you can get better.