Question : I think my friend has anorexia…?
My friend has a problem eating and excercizing excessively. I looked up the symptoms of anorexia on one website and she fits into 80% of the symptoms. I’ve been very worried about her but she never listens to me when i tell her to eat. She goes to the Y every day after school and won’t go to this church activity tomorrow because it interferes with her planned 5 hour workout. She invites me to go and for a few days I’ve been declining because I feel uncomfortable working out with her. I compliment her a lot and tell her she’s not fat, but i feel like it’s partly my fault because when at the beginning of the school year, I made a resolution with her to get in shape, and I was working out every so often. But I actually ate lunch and breakfast, while she wouldn’t eat anything. That’s when I got worried and sort of stopped the gym outings. But she didn’t. She will have a gym class at school and then work out another 2 hours, and she never wants to hang out with me because she’s trying to work out ALL the time! and she won’t eat anything!! Only today did i see her actually eat a salad for lunch. What do I do?? I’m stuck because she hates counselors and the one counselor at our school would tell my friend who told her about the problem and plus, I am her only friend that is openly worried about her and she would know i told. If i tell her mom though, I think that will be bad as well because her mom is one of the main causes (i.e. she tells her to do more classes at the Y with her, work out more, offers to maybe get her a personal trainer even though shes NOT EVEN REMOTELY FAT) and her mom also has a form of excercise anorexia. Is there any hotlines for me to call or something, that i could just ask for advice, even though I don’t have the problem? I don’t know who to turn to and my family is understanding, but they can’t really do much and my friend gets mad at me. HELP!
I want to talk to the counselor, but i KNOW that she hates counselors and my counselor is not very good. She would tell my friend that i told on her!! I may tell her as a last resort. But i am really wanting like a hotline to call.
anorexia hotline

Best answer:

Answer by Just Another One
Sometimes it takes time for a friend to tell someone about things like this. The only thing that you can do is just let her know that you are there for her! Just try to say something to upset her and make her think that. You can always talk to a counsler at school they would be able to help you out more!