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How to deal with it all anymore…?
Question : How to deal with it all anymore…?
So here’s what’s up…I’m 16 years of age, and have had a long history of major depression, anxiety, anorexia, etc etc. (I’ve been therapeutically treated for it for the last 3 full years..) Recently, I have gotten to the point where I do not know how to deal with, mainly, being a minor.
My parents aren’t drunkards who hit me every single night.
My parents aren’t dead, divorced, or diseased.
But for me personally, it is so hard to handle being in their household.
I don’t feel listened to (yes I have expressed this in a mature way to them), I feel restricted by their religious and conservative ways (my dad is a pastor), I feel like they are in a desperate struggle to shelter me from the real world (though they always talk about their financial and church stressors, etc, etc), and though my dad is getting treatment, I still don’t always feel safe around him or when he is fighting with my mom. Plus there is that whole thing about them finding out about me being pansexual, and they are major homophobes and actually said they will never look at me the same, and that they don’t want to accept me, much less would they be able to.
This night, I got in a fight with my mom after she started to roll her eyes and scoff when I was telling her about my life ambitions. (I have a scholular meeting coming up on Monday to discuss all this stuff, and whether or not I can do work study & online classes so that I can graduate halfway through my junior year next year.) I was so effing close to just up and leaving. Like…frighteningly close. But then I thought about my meeting, and how my plans would all be blown to pieces should I be filed with “unruley” charges for running away. And that minor detail that I have no where to go…
So, Yahoo!, what do I do? I figure these are my options.
A) Find a loophole in the laws that says I can move out at 16 without parental consent.
B) Find a really good/free lawyer (oxymoron right there) that can try to change the laws.
C) Ask Yahoo! Answers for ways to cope with living with the parental units, or at least to calm down and not make bigger problems for myself.
Extra:
I only have one really good friend here whom I am very close to (I have moved a lot & just moved across the country in 2008), and she isn’t available tonight because her grandma has chemo on fridays.
I can’t drive anywhere (my parents won’t let me get a liscence)—unless, of course, I want them to drive me. Yeah right.
I don’t have any adults/trusted professionals in my life whom I can talk to.
So to Yahoo! Answers I turn…
~The Golden Filly~
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Best answer:
Answer by Megan <3
Maybe you need someone to talk to. email me . its on my account. im sorry for what you have to deal with. answer mine plzzzhttp://answers.yahoo.com/question/index;_ylt=AiNuY6A3gH5eptM8M4P3ZYzsy6IX;_ylv=3?qid=20100122150512AAMmDtp
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#2 written by Vanessa 1 year ago
Wow! ..it sonds like yo have a lot going on right now… first of all I can’t see what kind of pastor your dad claims to be when he (and ur mom) can’t accept their own child… I’m sorry but God loves us for who we are and he made us just the way we are .. I’m sure when the time is right and it pleases GOD not your dad .. or your mom or the neighboor or whomever.. if GOD wants to change you ..HE and only HE will… in the mean time .. He’s the only one who can help…. and believe it or not .. HE’s sees your struggles… and he’ll never give yo more than what you can handle.. just have a little FAITH.. I know it sonds like I’m preaching .. but really just a little bit of FAITH can take u a long way.. Keep your goals in sight and keep workig for them .. try to keep yor mind occupied this way yo won’t have too much time to think about the chaos at home .. trust me running away won’t help.. and trying to change the system .. well GOOD LUCK!…
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#3 written by Nikki 1 year ago
dont move out, because you obviously have emotional problems and moving out could make things much worse. You wouldnt have money to live off of, and the stress would increase. I know the teenage years are hard (living them right now) but it will all get better, be strong
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#4 written by Becca 1 year ago
I’ve gotta tell ya. I’ve been there. Slightly different problems, (not anorexia, but I’m bi-polar and have been diagnosed with borderline personality disorder), but same intention nonetheless. Currently I’m 21 years old, have lived on my own since I was 17, and am doing very well with my job, school and I’m engaged.
On your parental issue, I moved out at 17 because I couldn’t handle being there anymore. Without diving to much into my own issues, long story short, same type of thing you’re dealing with.
My best advice to you is to grin and bear it. If you have already tried talking to your parents maturely about these situations, all I can say is do not rebel because it will only make things worse. Try finding a friend to confide in aside from the friend you mentioned, that way you always have someone to listen to you when you need it in a time like this. Keep a journal. Read a book. Just know that in the end everything will be okay, and if it’s not okay then it isn’t the end.
Hope this helps.
Also, feel free to message or email me.
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Smoke weed, it will all be better, and im not saying this as a joke, weed is a harmless sedative, and will get you happy, fight any depresiion, and piss of your parents. It won’t fuck you social or school life at all. You have too, its your only hope… come and jump up on the Ganja Bus, your one and only salvation…